Fear and intimidation are one in the same to me. But I don't know. I'm new to this stuff and I'm not the greatest at self diagnosing. I pull some advice from here, probably over share here and do pretty much everything that my counselor suggests to me. Her advice has been the most effective and impactful to me. My primary concern is just raising my daughters in a better, healthier environment by being aware of my own negative behaviors, as it pertains to my husband's alcoholism and my own upbringing. If we didn't have kids I think all of this would be MUCH easier to deal with.