God Bless you English Garden for this post. God Bless everyone on SR who tells the unvarnished truth. I had already broken up with my XABF when I found SR but all the stories here help stop me from going back. SR works because it is hard to BS people who have heard the same lies time and time again. "Ain't nothing new under the sun". There are a lot I truth tellers here, a lot of denial busting, shake some sense into you, no nonsense type folks here and I love you all.