Originally Posted by
kaitpalen 
I am the only one left and I feel so responsible for her and its tearing me apart.
I understand this feeling well, kaitpalen. The terrible truth however, is that you feeling responsible and horrible will do NOTHING to help your mom fight for sobriety. It is her fight, and her fight alone.
The "tough love" idea came from people at their wit's end, who have seen all their efforts to help an addict come to nothing - except to rob THEM of their sanity and resources.
I had to take a HUGE step back from the A in my life, just to regain my own emotional health. The distance has helped me realize that my actions when I was "helping" weren't doing a damn thing but wearing me out.
I hope you can find support for you (Alanon is great), and friends, teachers, and possibly individual therapy for you to help YOU with your stress.
Take good care, and please educate yourself as much as possible about alcoholism and how it affects friends and family. And keep posting here, it really helps.