Have you read this from the stickies yet, kaitpalen?
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
You might find some help in it.
You also might find some help in Alanon (or Alateen, not sure how old you are). If you've been reading on this forum since your May joining date, you surely know that the only person you can count on helping is yourself, tough though it is....