I too bailed my son out of jail only once and have regretted it every since. That was years ago but it was a terrible mistake. He promised the moon, recovery meetings, rehab, living by rules...and he wasn't out an hour before he was looking for dope again.
Some of the posts here just melt my heart. I have walked with Dev in recovery for years and what she has experienced would break most moms here, but she made it through it all, she survived and thrived and just look at her today. And today her son also thrives and is doing well. I think our children do better when we stay out of God's way.
Hugs