SeasonlessWorld

There are books out there with that title. I think its called Jekyll and Hyde syndrome. I felt my ex was like this too. Claiming to want to spend time with me then when I would act accordingly he would claim to need space. He also claimed that i forced him into the relationship when I remember that he clearly asked me to be his girlfriend. What I think tripped me up before I started educating myself about alcoholism and abuse is that sometimes these behaviors are intentional. The cutting remarks are calculated to manage down your expectations while they (the abusive alcoholic) still get to be supported by you when they need a hand to hold. It's pure selfishness really. Don't excuse away the behaviors because sometimes they are nice, because you know what, with the exception of the alcoholic in my life the people that I love and trust always treat me with respect.