We met at work at the lowest point in her adult life.
when a relationship starts with at least one person being very damaged, the individuals are not EQUALS. it's sets up the desire to fix, rescue, help, change and heal - rather than BE, enjoy, share and live.
I made it my mission to stop the nightmares and the grinding of her teeth and took it as a sign of the progress we were making together
that should be HER mission.....to fix and resolve her own issues. you are not her therapist, sleep specialist or orthodontist. her progress is not YOUR progress.
as it is, left to her own devices, she immediately falls back into old habits....allowing others to manipulate her, choosing to stay in a toxic unhealthy environment, drinking and going home with strange men. if she comes back, she brings all that unresolved stuff with her. and it will always be there, between you.
you're 20 something. so much life ahead. this could be a real learning experience for you.....