I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this. As a Health care provider, I would suggest you speak with the Doctor who is responsible for your Mom's care while in the hospital. Be assertive in letting him/her know something is wrong. Ask for an evaluation to determine if this is physical or mental in origin. The nurses don't know your Mom as well as you do. With respect to your AH, he's doing what A's do. It's a seflish disease, he doesn't have the capacity to worry/have compassion for someone else. Best not to expect anything from him, then you won't be disappointed.