Freeowl
Active sobriety, you are so right. I am still hurt. I know its the addiction and not him. And in that part of my heart that still believes in him, I honestly think this relapse will benefit him in the long run. Your 3rd point resonated with me. I have known this man since I was 17 (he is older than me) and I think we kinda grew up together. We have been through some major life events culminating with the unexpected and violent death of his son almost 10 years ago. And then the moment he admitted he was an alcoholic, asked for help and checked himself into rehab. I put some of the relapse down to timing, it's been 10 years since our life imploded. I knew he was heading off the recovery path but I also know I cannot make changes for him. He has to change himself with God. And I have to remember it wasn't me or what I did or said. I have to keep telling myself that but sometimes I just don't hear it!
One foot in front of the other one day at a time