Originally Posted by
FireSprite 
"You're EXACTLY like your MOTHER!!!"
For my RAH, that's a pretty below-the-belt thing for me to say & while I can definitely explain that I didn't mean it in the way that he heard it (I didn't) I also have to own the fact that there was NO WAY to say that nicely during a heated argument when we were both already acting ridiculous.
THAT one is funny.
Mrs. Hammer has become EXACTLY like her mother.
Part of the Personality Disorder aspect is what is called "mirroring." She copies someone, down to voice style, and sort of faux becomes them. After Rehab, with her mom, she switched her hair style, clothing, and even personal behaviors to that of her mom.
It is so flattering to her mother, MIL is convinced Mrs. Hammer is doing wonderful. Sort of comic-sad to sit back and watch. The kids laugh about it, too.