This is one of the best summaries of what Al-Anon and Nar-Anon is about.
By DETACHING WITH LOVE, we learn to focus on ourselves, our own ideas, emotions and attitudes. We understand we have a role to play in the situation we find ourselves experiencing, and we choose to focus on improving our role in the situation. As we do so, our well-being and our situation improves - for ALL involved.
I love that paragraph. We chose to focus on improving OUR role in the situation.