I sometimes have to check the literature for what a sponsor isn't to reassure myself that everything is ok with my sponsor and our relationship, because I can get pretty insecure about it.
But, my sponsor is there to guide me through the steps. The deal we made is that I call her or text her every day. Sometimes she'll call me. She always calls me back. It's a committed relationship. We sat down and agreed to it.
She gave me my step working guide and gives me direction. She expects me to go to a reasonable number of meetings a week. We belong to the same home group and share a lot of social activities too. Also service at area.
She is a wonderful lady, and tells me to look at myself first a lot which is irritating - lol - but most of the time she's right.
I empathize with what you are going through as this is the first time I have a sponsor relationship like this and have had my share of bad ones that never got out of the gate.
Keep on keeping on and you will do this. Love You.