To me you sound like one hell of a great mum! And lucky boys for having you there for them and putting up with their wayward behaviour. I have got a 14 month old baby and another one due in April so guess i have it all ahead of me - the raising and bringing up etc etc and it is kind of scary. I think, being a daughter and mother (new) that what is important is that you have their best interests at heart and i am sure they will sense or pick up on this. As far as the job thing goes i would do as the other's suggested - give it time. Recovery really is a full time job in itself and the more time they can "afford" off of it the better. That is not to say that isolating and hiding away from the world is any good either but there can be and is, a happy medium. I am sure you and they will know when the time is right to start working again. Good luck and all the best. Jo S x