you didn't GET the wife you have like a lottery drawing...you picked her and continue to pick her. when we acknowledge that we shift from victim to volunteer....and that can be quite empowering because it gives back to you the power of CHOICE.
Sorry I have to pull this out again because whether or not it's true for Hammer, it needs to be said. Over. And over. And over. I spent so many years feeling sorry for myself for being married to an ass. Until someone told me to my face that maybe I should consider what choosing to stay married to an ass made me?