I called my husband and just let him have it. I suspected the other night he drank, he swears he did not. I am pretty sure he did but could not prove it so I decided to leave it alone.
I remember when I first really started detaching, in so many ways it worked but in other ways it made me passive agressive as I truely was not detaching but rather just not reacting like I had in the past. I was stuffing all that anger and resentment, finding signs of drug use and not saying a thing at the moment (believing I was detaching) just made it all come out some where else down the road. It builds then would boil over.