Originally Posted by canada1
Thanks for letting me vent! It's just one of those many days. I go back and forth, literally, a hundred times a day. I know that now I have to do what's best for my daughter. I'm just not sure what that is yet. I understand everyone's point about her growing up with an alcoholic father. But I grew up with a single mom who I never saw because she had to work so much, and I hated it so much. I always swore I would never do that to my children. I have just started attending an Al-Anon group in my area. I am trying to get a handle on how his drinking affects me and how I react to it because obviously I have a problem in that area! Thanks!!!
You can give your daughter a great life. You are a great mother. Remember, she is young, you have your whole life with her. Do what you can now to make yourself happy. Learn how to depend on yourself / you can do this with him active in your life if you use the tools you learn in Al-Anon and if that is what you choose.
Getting a handle on it is the best thing you can do for yourself and for her.
You can vent here anytime - I do it almost daily....lol