I'm sorry Jend....I have come to believe it doesn't matter what we do. It will never be enough in their eyes. They typically want someone to place blame on and we are easy targets. My son used to only want quick fixes, not solutions. Still doesn't want solutions....just wants to moan about how awful his life is. He's still in the mindset someone is going to come along and fix him. Our kids have everything they need inside themselves to fix this...they simply aren't ready to. It is really discouraging when we are in disagreement with our partners on how to handle things. Adds another whole layer. Hang in there...