http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-5-a.html
There is one of the threads. I also notice there is a new "secular" friends and family forum.
The one thing about this, your A HAS TO BE READY TO QUIT or they will be out the door in minutes. YOU need to be able to make and keep that promise/contract. Other than that, at this point, there's not much to do, except get on with your own life. I can see how this is IMPOSSIBLE for many, especially if you have kids, financial needs from the A, etc.
I will just say, when it clicks--it clicks. its LOUD click which is immersed in the idea that the A MADE THE CHOICE, the A PICKED UP THE DRINK. and the A must not do that again--not one day at a time, but FOREVER. Radical? I guess not, logically, but it SOUNDS radical to us emotional Codies. (whoops. RR says not to use that term, but I am sure they will get over it
