Just what I read . . .
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https://rational.org/index.php?id=1
Zero-Tolerance Ultimatum for Your
Addicted Spouse or Significant Other (ASS)
©2010, Jack Trimpey. All rights reserved.
Addiction is insatiable, and will consume all of any family’s emotional and financial resources, and still demand more. In contrast to the addict-centered, disease/treatment way of thinking that puts the addict at the center of a family support system, AVRT-based recovery, is family-centered, requring the addicted family member to guarantee permanent abstinence as a condition of the benefits of family life. Families exercise their legitmate authority to force the addicted member to choose between his addiction and Plan B, an exact plan of self-protective action the family will take if and when the addict persists with self-intoxication.
Plan B may include disownment, termination of family membership, separation, divorce, ending financial support, or other means of family protection. Accordingly, we heartily endorse the zero-tolerance ultimatum, in which a family spokesman confronts the addict with, "Today you must choose between your addiction and (Plan B)." Refusal to guarantee lifetime abstinence, including the promise of recovery group participation or addiction treatment services, should be interpreted as "Yes, I will have yummy relapses any time I really feel like it," and set in motion Plan B.
Families are the source of legitimate, moral authority at the base of public law. Thus, families have powerful means at their disposal to deal directly and effectively with addiction within the ranks. Sadly, fellowships of addiction have conspired for over eighty years to dominate their families so that they become the political center of family life, requiring support, tolerance, and patient understanding in order to avoid continuing drunkenness, abuse, criminality, financial downfall, and mayhem. The culprit is the bogus disease concept of addiction, which transforms the ugliness of addiction into alarming symptoms of a major medical disease, makes addictive self-indulgence into innocent behavior, changes sociopathic addicts into disease victims worthy of compassionate attention, understanding and care. In short, the disease concept of immorality transforms the family's perfect ass into a sacred alcoholic at the center of family life.
The result of this medically-sponsored deception is that families of addiction feel unauthorized to deal logically and effectively with their adult, addicted family members. Following mainstream cultural beliefs and values, they interpret the ugly betrayal of addiction as a medical mystery and seek outside advice and professional advice.
Eagerly awaiting them is an inverted family system, Al-Anon, a fellowship based upon the beliefs and values of addicted people, that views addiction/alcoholism as a family disease. Al-Anon is a auxilliary of AA that changes the real victims of addiction, innocent family members, into “enablers” and “codependents” who are largely responsible, genetically and psychologically, for the onset and perpetuation of addiction. In AVRT-based recovery, however, enablers and codependents are considered suckers, falling for the most transparent excuse for self-intoxication, the disease concept of addiction. Fellowships of addicted people, gathered separately as addicts and families, then spawn an endless stream of clinical-sounding excuses, e.g., triggers, stress, depression, isolation, missing meetings, hunger, anger, lonliness, fatigue, "untreated addiction," etc. The over-arching threat to families is that, if an addicted person under duress "relapses," comes to harm or dies, then responsibility lies with the self-protective acts of the family. In other words, the disease concept of addiction is the foundation of emotional blackmail of individual families and the larger human family that makes up society and the nation.