I've found that I've become more selective in my choice of friends. One of the main reasons I started going to al-anon is that I wanted to reserve my friendships for the fun times we have because they are just as important for my sanity! I have a couple of close friends who know what's going on and I'm honest when they ask but I have chosen to save my biggest sharing for my meetings and here....with people who truly understand the struggle. I miss simpler times as well...when I could just laugh freely without feeling an undercurrent of sorts...But my world has changed forever and so have I.