Originally Posted by
anchorbird 
I am not trying to make light of what I did, that I fell off the wagon. I do deserve his anger and frustration, but I am merely saying that I never thought he would do it in that way.
Most of us are not at our best when being woken out of sleep by something. I've been knows to snap at my kids, ex, and bf when I am woken up in the middle of the night, especially if I am woken out of a dream, that always is extra hard for me.
So it might not be a sign of an uncaring spouse or a resentful bitter man. It might be that he didn't have time and a clear frame of mind to say "she is really trying, be supportive and gentle etc etc "
There were times when my innocent sweet and dearly loved children woke me in the night and the first things on my mind were not "oh lovely dear child how can I be of assistance to you!?"