Originally Posted by
suki44883 
What a petty and rotten thing to do. It's not his place to punish you. What a jerk.
I see projection in this response.
Anchorbird - we are only getting one side of the perspective, it is not balanced. It is helpful to put yourself in his shoes and see what type of pain he may have gone through with your drinking. My guess is he is scared and does not know how to react so his own ego is trying to protect him should you fall back into old habits.
Coddling can turn into enabling behavior, which is why there are groups like Alanon.
Its good to vent here but have you thought of sitting down with him tonight and discussing how it made you feel. I have found with my own marriage, which was on the rocks that erring on the side of talking too much can really help. Nobody is a mind reader so talking about it I think might help go a long way.