Good luck Z - although it sounds like you are on the right track. My AH can stay sober for a couple of weeks at a time but I always get the clear message that he is only doing for me - ie I have threatened to leave or have completely detached from him. Each time he goes back to the booze.
We are going through it again at the moment and only reason I am still here is I have had surgery and need help with the kids. Thank God he is managing at the moment or life would be hell
Anyway my point is until he gets sober for him I can keep expecting to live this life. Until he actually admits that he has the problem and not just a nagging wife I accept that there will be no permanent improvement.
Keep strong and keeping a journal is an excellent idea!
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