Originally Posted by
Hammer 
Not like I am anyone to say things in this regard . . .
I have been in (out for a while) and back in with a passion . . . all across 4 years.
Without doing the Steps Work . . .
BUT. Are you working the Program? I mean really working it?
Sponsor, Steps, Meetings. Readings. ALL THAT and a Bag of Chips.
Like they say at the closing -- It Works If You Work It.
But that is a mighty big IF -- probably should be:
It Works IF You Work It.
At least that is how things have been for me.
Now that I am getting serious, things seem much better for me.
Dunno about My Little A. Her side is Her problem.
Did you read my last post, LOL? EVERY SINGLE DAY. I get up and read my Courage to Change. I take notes on it, I meditate on the reading if I think it fits me or applies to my life. I do my step work (currently moving through 8 to 9). I spent so much time on steps 4-5 that I felt stuck there, too, for a while because I picked myself apart back then too. It was very easy for me to write down my character defects. I know I am missing something, my freaking brain is not wired for this stuff or something. I did not set out in this marriage to become a martyr or a victim, but that is exactly where I am at and I do NOT enjoy it.
I need a nap.