FWIW I think he just wants his way and control and he doesn't really ever think about how it affects you. We over think and over analyze because it is what we do. We try to put the way we think onto how they would but that is like us trying to think the way an addict thinks. In other words, we cannot begin to pull apart and ask why a schizophrenic thinks the way they do. Same with your boyfriend. We can sit here all day trying to figure it out and make guesses. All we can go by is his actions and they say loud and clear he wants control and he wants things his way. Other than that, I couldn't begin to tell you how he feels about you or why he doesn't want sex. No one knows the answers to that except him.