I would strongly recommend the book, "Why Does He Do That", by Lundy Bancroft.
Re: your question ---- I wonder do they feel bad for making us feel bad? Or just "justified", I don't know if I can answer that.
Sometimes I don't think that they even think about how we feel. They just got their way.
PS - Whether you stay with him or not, I think you are doing a good job researching and asking questions, because all of this will make you stronger in your own life.
Last edited by amy55; 01-10-2014 at 09:48 AM.
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