Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
um, one is not connected to the other....if that is your motive then you are trying to control HIS outcome.
Not, that's not my motive. I just want him to seek help, whatever it is, go back to AA meetings, have a sponsor or therapy. Whichever. Things are getting stranger and stranger, I don't see anything wrong with pointing that out. It's just how to do that right. Or should I just pretend I don't care and leave saying nothing, only to hear a few weeks later that he relapsed?