I am so sorry you are going through this. I agree with the comments from everyone else especially Patientlywaitin. It is a progressive illness and the last thing you want is to be isolated from your friends and family with an alcoholic who to me appears to be in denial. Believe me the isolation and lonliness is soul destroying Sadly it will get worse unless HE gets help and HE has to want to get that help!
As for cleaning up after him, my AH went through an incontinent stage and the reason I cleaned up and washed his dressing gown, is that we were sharing a home and I did it for MY comfort as much as for his but yes, I agree, you shouldn't have to clean up after an adult, but I can understand why you did!
Do keep posting - none of us will judge you - we have all been there or are still there to various degrees and do look after yourself.
Hx