thanks recovering2 that does make total sense thank you. I guess ive gone back to my old thoughts im the mean wife the not nice person - because he has to stop social drinking as well as home, he has to go to counselling, he has to do all this for me or I leave - I guess im the mean one for making him choose between us and him wanting to have a drink with his friends every now and then as he seems to think it will be easy to staop at home.
anyway I will stop trying to do something and stand now - I get that fully now thanks for sharing
