I've got this happening too.
I quit for about three months and then gradually got back to my old place. Now I'm actually kind of apathetic.
I know in my head it's what I have to do and today is a big day one for me.
Congrats to your husband!!!! Sounds to me like he did just the right thing. I know he was a lot more civil about it than I would have been. My response would probably have been along the lines of "Get your own damn wine and don't try weaseling an approval out of me."
Of course that may be why I'm single! HA!
Good luck Arctic!