I certainly share my experience that sponsoring others is a privilege and a keen responsibility. However, I firmly believe that when someone wants sobriety badly enough, there's really nothing I do that will ruin that. I am not that powerful. Nobody is. And when someone is not really ready, then there is nothing I can do to give them the gift. I am not that powerful. Nobody is.
All the angst over what others are doing or not doing in sponsoring is not needed. I've watched for years and realize today that absolutely ever experience is valuable, both good and bad. And MANY of these stories are completely missing any real context. Online, particularly, we hear only one side.
I absolutely know that my head can make up a story that is convincing, plausible, and also utter delusional. That is my insanity. lol Therefore, I allow others the dignity to be equally insane.
I have but one solution, and it's not my sponsor or anyone human.