I used to love to visit wineries and taste all the wine, breweries, and taste the brew, but I like being sober better. I can visit a lot of place, like art galleries, craft shows, car shows, boat shows, etc. Lots of sober fun out there. I think sometimes if I stay sober long enough will it be safe to have a drink, then I think, do I want to take that chance. I don't. I like being sober. You and your boyfriend should look for fun places that don't involve alcohol. Just my opinion.