The role of a sponsor is to guide a person through the steps, anything beyond that MUST be mutually agreed upon. Some sponsors don't want to be any more involved, some sponsees don't want to be anymore involved.
My first sponsor was pretty overbearing, because HER sponsor was that way with her. I wanted to work the program and do the steps, not hand my life decisions over to basically a stranger.
That didn't work. My second sponsor guided me in the steps and shared his experience, strength and hope, but absolutely supported me in making my own decisions etc. With his guidance I got and remained clean and sober.
If you are put off F2F sponsorship for now. I know an AA site where you can get an online sponsor.
When I got into the program. I didn't give anyone my full name or address, not even a sponsor. It's an anonymous program, and with good reason. And face it, not all of us are stable, trustworthy or honest.