I don't have 17 years, but about 6 months ago, with me having 2 years or so, my wife texted me saying "I need to ask you something". I forgot about it until the next day - she hadn't brought it up. I then asked her, and she said that she thought she smelled booze in the car and wanted to know if I drank. I said no, and she took it at that. I was a bit shocked by it, but before I could get my head into a tailspin, I just remembered the hell I put her through for 15 years, and also knowing that 2 years isn't that long of a time. I didn't mind that she asked, and also asked in a non-aggressive, confrontational way. I know that it wasn't her not trusting me, but just asking. I didn't take it any further than that. I had to realize that I was completely untrustworthy for a very long time in my life, so I expected that she would have these moments.
As mentioned in the previous comments, taking a look at the reason for being hurt might lead to some resolution on your part.