Cynderino, divorce is surely a very difficult transition, but in my experience in observing my friends' and family members' divorces, it is usually all for the best and everyone ends up being just fine once the transition time is over. My SIL does most of the single parenting, since her ExH lives out of state. She dreaded sharing the kids and missing time with them, but now I honestly think she welcomes the "breaks." She knows that the kids are with their father who loves them and who will take care of them, so she can breathe easy and enjoy some time, just to herself, (which is much needed as a single parent)!