Hello, everyone!
Hi there! I am (obviously) a new member to this site who is dealing with an individual who is in recovery (my husband). He has been sober for about 3 months. He stopped drinking completely in response to me coming home (after MANY years of his drinking heavily) and letting him know I had visited a lawyer and wanted a divorce. (I also asked him to move out.)
He stopped drinking over the next couple days (he said he had already been cutting back), and was very apologetic for the trauma he had caused. He begged me to let him stay in our home with our children so that we could work on our marriage. I relented; I have not officially started divorce proceedings, I did not force him to move out, and we are, supposedly, working on our marriage.
Over the last several years, he has lost a job due to drinking, been in the hospital four times due to drinking, has had a DWI where he blew a .33 (with my kids and one of their friends in the car), and lied to everyone in his family about his issues. However, he says that now that he is not drinking, he is committed to making things work.
My husband has never been physically abusive, and has consistently held a full-time job (I also work full-time). As situations go, I know that I could have things a lot worse - that many of you have things much worse. However, I'm feeling a bit like I just can't take any more. I'm looking to all of *you* for the collective wisdom to know what the "right" thing to do next is. I'm grateful to be here and learn from y'all!