Originally Posted by
MissFixit 
what was alanon sponsor for if you didnt do steps w that person?
I started into this much righter back those 4 years ago.
Had a Sponsor who got me up into the 4th Step.
Real Life changing stuff even at that level. God smiled greatly on me.
Got what I wanted and totally dumped Alanon and stopped the Step Work.
Lived to regret all that. Life and Mrs. Hammer all spiraled out of control.
After I got back in Alanon, I went looking for what I wanted as the Big Happy Ending.
My current Sponsor is old. Near 80. Fading out and really just sort of doing "duty" until he dies and gets home with his wife. (She was AA and he Alanon for 34 years.) She died this last year. They were married for 56 years. But that is what I sort of wanted for Mrs. Hammer and me.
He would let me (not) do things at my own pace.
Today's Step Sponsor is much more Basic Training, Get It Right, Get It Done.
Better match for how I work (or fail to) in life.
I will still keep my current sponsor -- the Step Sponsor required it in fact. Just figured I would put this type stuff in this thread.