I am taking off my alkie hat and putting on my codie hat
The best amend you can do to him is a living amend. As partners of active alcoholics, we have heard the "I m sorry, I'll quit, it won't happen again" so many times that we have become blasé.
It takes a long time to regain the trust of your loved ones. Everyday you are a loving wife who remains sober, you are coming closer to regaining that trust and you are making amends to him.
OK taking off my codie hat and putting my alkie hat back on.