Originally Posted by
jarp 
My plan is to ask him to leave and I'm 99% sure he'd do that, but on the chance he doesn't then I need a plan b or emergency plan if things go bad.
I would add a backup to your backup plan in case the back up plan fails.
Like you, I'm planning to ask AH to leave. My backup plan was to stay with family for a few days while finding an apartment if AH refuses to leave. I tentatively broached the subject of asking AH to leave with my family (did not even mention staying with them.) They were all clear. They believe my DS is being a brat and needs to "compromise" by coming home and I need to suck it up and stay with AH. When I mentioned that AH was not "compromising" or working to improve the situation and used concrete examples, they said that was just my perception? Not sure how AH not going to AA, quitting counseling, not making any effort to contact DS, and starting drinking again is a "perception"? End result is that I'm now working on a backup plan that does not require me to rely on someone else or stay with family.
I'm sorry that your holiday is horrid
