I could have sworn one of my previous posts from a few years popped back up after reading yours HG....My in-laws came to town picked up their best friends and they went and checked out this recovery centre and booked him in without mentioning one word to me about it...it was very expensive their, like you I had no insurance to pay. They did pay but later down the road they want me to pay them back and as you can guess it started a fight and as if there wasnt already hard feelings cause yes the blame game was going strong. I could sit here and write pages full, but just wanted to let you know I feel for what you are going through and fulling understand. We also had two small boys at the time who they hardly contacted either. I truly believe it was partial denial and if they didn't have to see it they could just keep their heads buried in the sand and it wasn't happening. My in laws have always been ones that want to protray to the world that they have this wonderful problem free family...my now exah got so out of control that he did 4 armed robberies on gas stations, police arrested him...I called them as they lived in another town...I was a mess after getting a phone call from the police telling me what had just gone down...MIL's reaction was don't tell anyone....Like Hello Lady this is big news its hitting the noon news and the newspaper...!
Hard as it is for you and don't think by the sounds of it that your going to get much support from his family either...
Rose