My stepson has been in the hospital twice detoxing, in patient rehab once, out patient once, jail, prison, homeless shelters, he has even threatened to kill family members who finally stopped enabling him. Once all of his enablers stopped giving him money, stopped letting him crash at their place, stopped taking care of the consequences of his actions, he finally began to learn how to deal with life on his own. It has been a long and painful process, but he is learning, and growing, and doing better overall in spite of setbacks.