I have been reading SR for several years since struggling with the "stay or go" question. Both threads have helped, and I have taken joy in learning of others' As' recovery and admired those who work a program alongside their partner. In my case, I was helped (along with therapy) in figuring out what path I should take with an active A, who was uninterested in recovery and who was increasingly hostile and abusive.
It might help for folks to include more description in topic headings (such as "XAH is drunk driving my child" or "Wife not working recovery" or "Need help getting out") which have some specifics.