Originally Posted by
Needabreak 
Actually, I thought the purpose of this forum was to support the friends and families of alcoholics. Alcoholics have their own forum for support.
Agreed.
What gets tricky about the friends and families label is that 'AND' is a term with two meanings.
They say we always look for ourselves first in a group picture so I read "Friends and Family" assuming the latter implies the former and that is not the case nor should it be.
Depending on one's reasons for seeking support, the word 'alcoholic' can bring out feelings of sympathy or antipathy and absent the proper context that can cause some head scratching (or eye scratching) at times.
If you ask the question "So if you could make a wish for the next year, what would it be?"
Some would say that their dream would be to see the alcoholic they know celebrate a year of sobriety and renewal 365 days hence.
Others might be more inclined to hope the alcoholic drops dead while they are reading this post - and knowing their circumstances you wouldn't blame them.
For others it's in the middle but it's good to know whether the person giving you feedback would prefer to see their spouse switch from vodka to coffee and cream or from vodka to coffee and Polonium ;-)