It is YOUR turn! You deserve a peaceful retirement! I know you love your daughter and trust me she KNOWS you do! That's why she's pulling this! Love does not equal sending money to help her destroy her life more than she already has! Love equals letting her make her own choices and allowing her to feel the consequences of those actions. That is the swiftest way to help her recognize she is making the wrong ones. Recovery/change occurs when doing the same thing over and over again becomes terribly uncomfortable. Let her reach that point. That IMHO is the most loving thing you can do for her.