Hi Dotty and welcome again!
As you have read, you are not alone.
this is agreat place to come and share. You will learn something we call the 3 Cs - you didn't CAUSE it, you can't CONTROL it and you can't CURE it. What you need to do is look after yourself.
Try and get to an al-anon meeting.
http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/ We have quite a few guys at ours.
Love
Minnie
xxx