I think you are so brave for doing what you did. You will never have a real relationship if you are both using. But if you are sober you may have a chance in the future. Your sobriety should be the most important thing in your life right now, cuz without it life sucks.
If it was meant to be it will happen. But sounds like taking the route you took is also really helping here as well and she may really thank you someday!