Tomorrow it has been four weeks since I left the home I lived in with my husband for the last 11 years. It happened so quickly that it still seems a little unreal when I wake up in the morning. I haven't quite "landed" yet. But I am slowly moving on.
So far, I have been working on myself to let go and to stop obsessing about what he may be doing or not doing. I am getting better at that. My shoulders are close to normal height again and I find myself thinking more about my future than my past, which is a huge improvement on my part. Some of the actual differences in my every day life:
I sleep more than 3-4 hours per night again
I don't wake up with fear of where he is and what he is doing anymore
I can work and get it done by deadline (I work at home and he used to refuse to let me work, I suspect to start an argument)
I can read a book if I want, play a game if I want, watch TV if I want - I don't have to sit and watch while he gets drunk
I can THINK
I have peace, nobody yelling at me, nobody calling me nasty names
I am not afraid anymore
I am not depressed anymore
I can be myself again
So yeah, my life has improved 100% since I left. And, as I get better at letting go of the relationship, things will improve even more.