Hi Kittenlittle...my XRAH did the same thing..got sober, stopped going to meetings, instead of working on fixing our mess he started another relationship that he left his family for. Fast forward 2 years...he is a lonely miserable man..does nothing but work, has no relationship with his only son but still with the ow as far as I know. He works no program but every year proclaims how proud and happy he is that he is sober. He has 4 yrs in Feb. and Im glad for that but he is still just as unhappy and miserable as he was the day I left.
I had the same questions...never got answers. Dandylion is right...even if you did get answers it wouldn't change a thing. I was told this many times... when an alcoholic jerk gets sober, you still have a jerk...that was the cleaned up nice version...:0
sorry you are dealing with this...I know how painful it is ...hold on and hang in there.