Unfortunately snood, living with an active alcoholic is like being dishonest with yourself/ourselves, especially around other people who don't know. Someone stops in and everybody runs for their costumes and plays, This is a wonderful life! But don't get too close so you can't hear me mutter under my breath that this assh*le's been drunk for 2 effing weeks! Ya know what I'm saying?
Since it's your money and her money and she wants you to keep your grubby paws off her acct, can you have your access pin number changed so she can't use it? I mean, if she wants to get snippy, 2 can play at that game. CUT HER OFF. Get your acct back in good order.