I do not understand why so many people on this board believe in the court process. And are afraid of the court system. The safety of children comes down to the mother. That is more important than anything. A mother knows best. I watch people here get discouraged by the process yet continue battling the system. The highest paid lawyers are usually the ones who win in the end. The cost of this divorce/custody is the most expensive I have ever read. I mean the US Embassy even has an opinion. My heart goes out to you but at the same time I would stop following every single detail in the court order.